When Rodney refused to move in with me in Chicago, I had to make the hardest decision in my life. Him visiting me whenever he can, jus flew out the window. He wanted us to be together as a family. I had an easy job that pays great, I was next to my family, I had everything and I was risking to lose all that to be with him. But I thought, he’s offering a father figure to my son and a family to my unborn child, so shall I only think of myself or the sake of my kids??
I was glad that our company had a sister company in Huntsville, AL and I flew to Alabama one more time to have an interview with The HR Manager of the store. I was offered a Full time Sales Associate in Fashion Jewelry and I took it, the pay was a lot less than what I was making, but, who cares, I was ready to gamble. Rodney asked me what I want for Christmas that year and I said, I didn’t need anything but his presence. He said, he will see what he can do.
December 23rd, he told me that he was coming over to spend Christmas with me. I got so excited, he didn’t only spend Christmas with me and my family, but also New Year, hehehe!, . When I had my ultrasound for the baby’s gender, he wanted me to call him right after my appointment, and when I did, he cannot believe that he was going to have a son. and he named him William Roan (William, from 4 generations of first born sons, Ro-from Rodney and An, from Ana.)
Christmas 2001, Chicago Illinois
During my Baby Shower My aunt’s Home maid cake
I never had a doubt about Rodney’s personality, I knew that he is a great guy, wonderful and responsible. In every relationship, there would always be trials and we dealt with that before I considered moving in with him. I moved to Alabama that February 2002 . Him and his dad drove over 10 hours with a trailer and came and got all my stuff. My aunt gave me a baby shower before I left. She was in tears, she was scared for me. Dan rode with them and I took the plane since I will have hard time riding for I was 7 months pregnant
I can’t remember the exact day I arrived in Alabama. We cleaned the trailer house, fixed a room for the baby and Dan’s and I started my job at Parisian. Rodney was working in a company that I can’t recall what the name was. I was happy, we were a family now. Rodney and I talked about getting married when it’s possible. We didn’t know each other that well and by living together, we were giving ourselves chance to know each other better. So there was really no official “Marriage Proposal”
So, from day to day, we lived our lives to the fullest. He was funny and he made me laugh all the time. He would take me to my doctor’s appointment and we would eat out if we have the money. We had a very simple life. We had the girls for 6 months (they went back to their mother after that) and financially it was tough for us. He had to stop working so he can watch the kids and I kept my job, I can’t quit since we’re not married, otherwise, Dan and I won’t have medical insurance. There was a time that I was thinking, what was I doing there? I could’ve stayed in Chicago, I had a great job, and family. Sometimes, when you were struggling but you were with your loved ones, it wouldn’t really matter. Rodney might not have a job during that time, but he made sure that when I get home from work, my house clothes were ready, he tried to clean the house the best he can and he took care of the kids. I love him and lacking of material things was nothing compare to the happiness that he made me feel ,being loved and special.
My parents came November 2002, and that made us a big happy family.
We were happy, though didn’t have much but each other. I believe that during those times our LOVE became stronger. I learned things about Rodney and I love him even more everyday. He is tough and yet soft inside. He had previous experiences that made him that way. He was scared to be in a relationship so soon due to his past that ended up in a separation and divorce. He wanted to start a new life with me and the kids. That’s what we did. We started fresh and our relationship was based on love, trust and respect. We promised each other that we won’t give up, we’ll be strong, that we will hang on, until we can both say “ I DO.”.
And that topic will be our next week’s MEME.
whoops.. nakapa detailed nman nitong story mo… grabe na ito… kahit walang marriage proposal ito i love it.. parang novel ni helen meriz hehehe.. ill make mine soon.. meanwhile asikasuhin ko muna si habibi.. its our monthsary today
Halo Mommyliz, I am so inlove with your story, parang pang hallywood, box office and its really areal one. My gosh, and I admired your courage and dedication talga mommyliz. Kung ako nasa position mo, I doubt if I survive, sa umpisa palang na labas pasok and loving hubby mo, I already gave up. but ikaw wow, you fought for it and gave up your good live at chicago just to be with him.
He is very lucky to have you mommyliz, you open his mind to fall in love again and you are also lucky to found him and bring him back to being who he was despite sa mga napagdaanan nya sa love. Nakaktrauma talga ang love kaya sometimes naapektuhan ang ibang tao dahil lng sa bad experiences nila sa past. And with you and Rodney wow, you guys are amazing.
Ako minsa nagrereklamo ako sa hirap ng buhay dito, at sa mga trials in life, marriage and everything. Sana mahawaan mo ako sa positive attitude and good characters mo mommyliz. I love your story ever. Thanks for sharing.
I enjoyed reading you story Mommy Liz! Making a realtionship work is not just a walk in the park, it requires a lot and in your end, it requires a gamble. Your love story is very inspiring…
@ Eds-
detailed ba ang story? di ba mas maganda kasi it’s the reality of life. Katuwa ka naman, parang Helen Meriz? Gosh, favorite ko siyang romance Novel author nuon sa Pinas,
@ Shydub
Minsan kasi, we have to take risk to find out what lies in the future. And if we don’t try, we will never find out di ba? During that time I was also scared, but I took the chance, and I was so glad I did. Most of the time, material things can get ruined, but the LOVE that you build with your partner can never be taken away. Saka, I can always leave and go separate ways if it didn’t work out for both of us. I had the choice of living independently, but I chose to have a family. We had been through a lot of trials, financially and emotionally, but, we’re still here together and looking forward to our future with our children.
I am glad that you like this entry. Now, I need to read yours..Hehehe!
@ Kathy,
Tama ka dyan, di madali ang pumasok sa isang relasyon, lahat yan risky. But, with the understanding, love, respect and communication of both parties, it will work. There would be a lot of pain, heartaches and sacrifices, but if you hold on strongly and not give up, you will be rewarded with lots of love and a great marriage.
Thanks for the comment. Have a great day to you.
Oh you have made a tough decision sis by flying on to him being away from your family.. But you made the right choice. You have a family of your own now and I can guess by the background of your man it is a lovely happy family..
Nakaka strengthen ung courage mo sis to try a new life just to be with the father of your kid and the love of your life. I wish you more happiness that both of you and your hubby deserve.
@sweet_shelo- Yes, I am so glad that I made the right choice to stay with him. Ang nagpalakas lang ng loob ko eh, I can always get out of the relation kung hindi mag work. I am so happy it works and still working to this date. Minsan kasi, need lang ng courage, if you don’t try, you will never know di ba?? Thanks for the comment.
i’m following your story and i love and enjoy reading it. for now, makikibasa muna ko.. napakasarap basahin ng love story mo at maramdaman mo talaga yung genuine love. nakakainspire talaga. God Bless you and your family.
@nuts- I am so happy that you are following my love story and that you enjoy it. Iba kasi ang dating ng story kapag it’s written from the heart di ba? ramdam na ramdam depth at ang meaning. Sa lahat ng blogs ko, I write it from my own experiences. And also, when LOVE is true and pure, it’s heart warming to read it.
hmm nabitin ako ako ala pa hehe gagawin ko pa lang haha 2 days bago matapos kc mag iisip pa ako haha
i always love your story, Liz
; very encouraging, sweet and full of experiences kung saan natututo ako. It is true, for a love to last it needs love, trust, respect and understanding, on top of compromise. thanks again for sharing; la pa yung entry ko, gagawin ko pa lang mamaya.
@cecile, I am so glad that I can share my story without inhibitions. I write from the heart, kaya lahat ng ito eh totoo at I can write it where I can make you all interested to read it. I am also glad that by reading my stories, it’s a learning tool for you. I am not expert in marriage experiences but by sharing it, I know, some couples out there can at least learn and practice what they have learned on their own marriage.
edi syempre highest level na naman ang napulot ko sa love story niyo mare ko
i have mine up na.. i hope it isn’t dry na
oh well its for u!! 
hehehehe
@NIko- mare, get over it! hehehe..bayaan mo ang dry na yan, for me, your writing is great. I hope that you are learning from all these stories na nababasa mo, at magamit mo ang napag aralan mo towards your marriage. Actually, nasa inyo rin yan eh..it’s a give and take tandaan mo lang OK?
Grabeh! carried away n2man ako sa story mo mommy liz…u’re such a strong woman…and i admire ur courage for leaving your family and good job just to be with Rod.
@sheng- actually nakakatakot din ang ginawa ko, kasi di ko naman masasabi kung gaano kabait si Rodney eh dahil we didn’t know each other that well. Naswertehan lang na he’s a great guy. I didn’t know anybody but him nong magsama kami, so anuman ang mangyari, wala kaming pupuntahang mag ina.. But, before I chose to stay with him, I felt na ok naman siya, kasi ang dad niya preacher sa church nila, kaya sabi ko, ah, may takot sa Dyos to, hehehe!
we will endure anything for love. kahit yata mag-ulam tayo ng asin basta kasama natin mahal natin ay ok lang. lol!
you’re a strong woman liz and I admire you for that.
@rossel, ay naku, totoo ka dyan, kahit magdildil sa asin eka nga noong matatanda sa atin. Marami na kaming pinagdaanang hirap ni Rodney, buti na lang, sanay akong magtanim ng sibuyas noong araw, so balewala sa akin ang hirap ng buhay, hehehe! buti dito kahit wala kaming pera, masasarap parin ang food, eh sa Pinas, kapag mahirap ka, bihira kang makakain ng manok, hahaha!
Liz I salute you, you are one very brave woman but it’s L O V E eh so maski ano susuungin daw at kita mo naman ngayon you are a happy woman in love hehehe… tama ka minsan we ahve to take a risk talaga to find out what’s ahead of us.
@Lindz- di ko nga rin alam kung bakit ang tapang kong hinarap ang buhay ko eh, hehehe..nakita ko kasi na Rodney is a good hearted person, so prang I told myself, I will try. if it didn’t work, I can always go back to my old life di ba? lahat naman tayo may choice eh, it just a matter of making it. but not all choices are good, meron din bad, I was just lucky enough to choose the right path and it gave me my wonderful life now. Thanks for the comment. Naku eh sali na at ng mabasa din namin ang story mo noh. Di naman need na detailed at mushy, hehehe!
Liz I promise na I will wirte my story one of these days I know, I know I keep promising that’s my bad busy kasi eh, paningit lang ang pag blog blog ko sa morning and evening.
oh wow! that is one courageous and enduring love. you gave up everything to be with him. Ganyan yata talaga magmahal ang mga Pilipina. todo-todo walang break! hihihi
your strength and resilience and eternal devotion are all admirable to have in a relationship. I hope single ladies out there are learning from all these romance stories. I am married but i am still learning a lot from you. I think what you went through is only half of what i have experience in my three years of marriage.
thank you and best regards!
my entry is here http://kcelebration.blogspot.com/2009/11/couples-corner-proposal.html
@Kero- to tell you honestly, you can never learn everything for the first 3 years of being married. Everyday, you will learn different things, and when you learn to accept the fact that in LOVE, heartaches, sacrifices, pain and all will be involved then and only then you can tell yourself that ” yes, I have a great marriage” You are 2 different individuals with 2 different personalities, it’s not easy. But, if you hang on and wait, it will come, LOVE will prevail and happiness will be gained..
hay salamat nakahabol din ang inahing makupad dito heheheh. Ang hirap pag gising tong mga kabarangay ko, ang kukulit!
Hanga na talaga ako sa relasyon nyong dalawa mOmmy Liz, hahamakin ang lahat makamit ka lamang hehehe… love involves sacrifices talaga, tama yung “no guts no glory” diba..
You made the right decision though, I think that God was guiding you on those times Liz…
O sya baka maiyak pa ako sa drama ko dito hahaha..
Oiiist guys, please pray for Clarissa ha, she is feeling down right now. Please let us all pray for her and her family..
John & Rose
@ chubskulit- When you make a decision, risk is always involve, di mo alam kung tama or mali, but you have to decide di ba? No guts no glory eka mo nga, and it’s better to try and fail, than to not try at all. who knows it might work di ba?? I am so glad na ako eh hindi materialistic na tao, na sanay ako sa hirap. Minsan sinasabi niya sa akin na he was so happy at di ako nagrereklamo sa hirap, sabi ko, sanay akong matulog sa sa concrete na may banig, bakit di ko uli kayang gawin, basta sama sama lang kami..
hehehe talagang binasa ko from the start to end kahit napa ka slow ng internet ko ngaun wahhh btw girl tomorrow na muna ako mag leave ng comment sa mga members ng couples corner ha, kasi grabe wahhhh ang connection ko parang pagong wahhh
@ anne- ok lang yan kahit di ka maka comment, I appreciate yung pagsali mo sa Meme at ang pagbisita mo sa akin regularly. Thank you very much.
I love your story, Liz. You really love Rodney. I admire you for that. Few women would stand behind their men while they work and the husband stays in the house. It’s such a noble thing to do: staying with your hubby through thick and thin. And your gesture of love paid well. Now, he shows how much he loves you by working hard for you and your kids. Thanks for sharing. It blessed me!
Di ko sure kung matapos ko un post ko, ha? Promise, pag mejo nakabawi, join ako uli! Comment muna ang beauty ko ngayon!
@ Beth- We had so many ups and downs the whole 8 years of our being together, and kung iba lang siguro ako, noong sobrang hirap namin, baka umalis na ako at naghanap ng iba, hehehe. But, because I can see na masikap naman siya, wala lang siyagn chance na mag work nun kasi nga may kids kami na need ng attention. When he did get the chance to work, he never stopped. He is doing the best he can to provide for us.. Kaya labs na labs ko eh, hehehe!
I really love your story Mommy Liz,you fought your love for him & your decission & love for him was so firm ‘though uos & downs & naging start ng relationships nyo,minsan kasi nakakapanghuna ng loob,but then if the love is true you will surpass from whatever comes along w/ you.Kakaiba ka pa rin kasi,you fought for ypur love alone & I do believe na nakita ni Rodney yon.Rodney is very lucky to have you as well as you to him.Mine’s up now,nakakakilig talaga ang meme na ‘to.
Hugs!God Bless!
@Seiko- he knows from the beginning and until to date, that i love him for what and who he is. Sbi ko sa kanya, minahal ko siya kahit wala siyang kahit sinko sa bulsa, at kahit wala kaming pera, I stayed with him through thick and thin. And he appreciates that. Now, he gives me wonderful life with our children. Kahit la pa rin kaming pera, at least we are a little better than before. LOVE is always the key to a great marriage. Faith, respect, understanding and good communication only follow. kapag walang love, nothing can happen.
Wow sis Liz…grabe din pala ka challenging ang love story ninyo.. Love can really move mountains…imagine, you gave up your job to be with the one you love….and you both are right sis, as long na both of you wll stick together and preserving the love for each other, you can face trials and obstacles along your way…your love story is very inspiring indeed..
@ chuchie- totoo ka dyan, when true love exists sa isang relasyon, there is no trials and obstacles na hindi malalagpasan. When LOVE is that strong, it will be forever..
that’s what True love can possibly do.. hahamakin ang lahat, makasama ka lamang.. lolz…
hirap nun ah.. it’s a one tough decision na iwan mo family mo dun at magandang job. But for the sake of fafa Rod, y not diba? hula ko icp mo nun.. love is all that matters..hehe
ang sweet naman..
*next week na ko sali ha.. wla kc msyado story s marriage proposal ko..hihi ipagsama sama ko na lng next week..
till then..
@ Prettymom- ganon nga yata kapag LOVE, kasi di mahalaga ang material things basta kasama ang mahal mo di ba? Thanks for the comment.
Wow I am inlove again and again…This is my first time joining Mommy Liz… Catch up lang ako hehhee. Ang pag-ibig talaga no hubby was divorce because his wife left with another guy so he is risking to have me hehehe. But i am blessed to have him so in your case love is stronger and risking is the best part because you two both inlove. hav e a great day…TC
@gengen- thanks for joining our Meme. When someone had a bad experience from previous relationship, it takes time before they can trust someone again. In our case, both our husbands were lucky enough to find Filipinas who are honest, faithful, understanding and totoong magmahl di ba?? Hehehe..
I really had fun reading your story mommy liz…
mine is up as well!!!
oh my…detalyadong detalyado ang story,….kinikilig ako…parang nagbabasa ako ng pocket book….hehhehe!
highest level naman yung courage and strength mo mami Liz…when it comes to LOVE talaga….you can beat all odds……
thanks for sharing…will do mine shortly,…..thanks pala sa support para kay akesha ha….
Oks lang yun mommy liz kahit unti lang ang datung what is important is you have each other. walang away at nagmamahalan parang kame dito. hehe. ang hirap magkwento ng mahaba i have to edit out some portions hindi ako masyadong comfortable ikwento but at least andun ang gist nung story namin para sa theme this week. hope to join again next week.
mine is on now always late thanks for visit again
Hi liz, napaiyak ako sa drama nang love story mo pweding ipadala sa Maalala mo kaya.
Mommy Liz, your story is a very inspiring love story.. You both did your part. You gave up everything for him and yet he never failed you. He even run the household to become a good house husband. It takes a man to swallow his pride and daddy rod made it with flying colors!!! you must be very proud of him, and I must be very proud as you too. No wonder until now you are both very inlove.. because you know how to handle every situation and make LOVE a constant thing.
I just finished mine.. LOL! I know.. too late.. but I want to complete the meme.. please drop by if you have time..
Marriage Proposal
For a successful relationship, sacrifice and understanding will help a lot, communication too is a must. Kapag mahal mo naman kasi ang partner mo, you will do anything di ba? just to prove na you can face everything and financial difficulty is only a trial that will test your LOVE.