Since, Rodney and I had been together for over two years when we got married, so the first year wasn’t much of an adjustment. We have known each other long enough to tolerate our differences. I guess, in marriage, you have to tolerate one’s fault to be able to accept him/her for who he/she is.
On the other hand, being married to someone you love is something. For a woman, carrying your husband’s last name feels heaven. After the wedding ceremony, I went straight to work and talked to our Human Resources Manager and I told her that I would like to add my “ HUSBAND” to my insurance. It sounded so strange “my husband” I didn’t know why it felt so great. And I told her also that I was changing my last name. Wow! that was two birds in one stone. For the first weeks, it was kind of hard for me to sign my new name. I always have to tell myself that I am married now and I am a wife to my beloved man.
Well, there were few changes though after we married. I don’t know if it’s considered “change for the better”. Before I married my hubby, I can’t fart when he’s next to me. and I can’t go (ebak) when he’s inside the bathroom with me, no matter how I tried..I would always tell him to get out. But, after I said I do, I don’t know what transformed me into this beast, (he calls me that when he starts to smell something stinky ) but..I lost all my inhibitions. I felt so natural of doing things that married people normally do.
We had so many trials during our first year of being married, but I had no doubts whatsoever. I realized too that when you are already married, the security of being loved and treasured is there. I hear some stories that couples are only sweet and romantic while they are still unmarried, but when they tied the knot, it’s over..I disagree on that. They say that the only way to know a person is when you live with him/her under a roof. True..but knowing that person takes time, and accepting and loving the person for who he is, is another situation. You don’t marry someone to change him, it’s up to him to change himself for the sake of the marriage to last and vice versa.
Even before we got married, I learned to accept and love his faults. No one is perfect, and I don’t want a perfect man. I love him even when he can’t put his dirty laundry into the laundry basket, I love him even if I was bitching on him about not putting a new toilet paper on a holder, or when he can’t put this toothbrush back to its holder. Little things that he’s been doing for 8 years since I first met him, up until 10 minutes ago when he got ready for work. I promised myself that one day, I will take a picture of all his irritating habits, and I will blog about it..Wait for that topic my friends, it will be on this Meme..Hehehe!
I also have faults and he loves me anyway, like what I said, nobody is perfect and who would want a perfect partner?? not me nor my hubby, that’s for sure. Our first year of being married was actually a challenge for us financially, but we were strong enough to face every trials that came our way. and I am praying that we may keep being strong for our children. That’s all for this week, until next Wednesday.
Have a Good Couple’s Corner, Ladies, and I can’t wait to read all your versions..
hindi ko nakita si manang kim sa kanyang entry .. hehehe anyway, natuwa ako sa ututan portion na yan ha hehehe..
hay naku sa wakas nman at nakajoin ako.. double post pa ako ha.. check mo un last week ko ..
@ Eds,
di ba totoo naman, kahit matagal na kaming magkasama ni Rodney, di talaga ako maka utot na nakaharap siya, or di ako maka ebak, for some reason, pero noong kasal na kami, hahahaha..contest na yan..ganon yata eh, parang iisa na kasi kau, wala ng hiya hiya.. at ease na kugn baga
Nobody is perfect and you are truly correct Liz. But flaws and other imperfections is what makes our relationship come to perfection. Ours is different since we have to live in two different world after we got married. Love your photos Liz.. Quickie lang to at busy ang lola mo hehehe..
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@ Chubskulit,
Totoo ka dyan Mommy Rose, yugn mga flaws natin at faults, kapag yan ang natutunan nating mahalin sa ating mga spouses, lalong tumitindi ang love di ba? Kasi, kung kaya nating tanggapina ng kanilang mga flaws, the more na kaya nating tanggapin ang kanilang goodness. eh di mas masaya..
Liz, that is so true! After you are married, no inhibitions, wala nang hiya hehehe; nakakatawa about the “ebak” thing but it is so true! I always look forward to your entry kasi you always make me laugh eh!
@Cecile,
Totoo naman ate Cecile, kapag mag asawa na, parang isa na kau nyan eh, sa umpisa siguro medyo dyahi pa, pero kapag tumagal na, you feel comfortable na.so ke mabantot ang hininga sa umaga, oks na basta katabi lang si Sweetheart, hahaha.
korek ka.. naku hirap ako nung first year dahil sa new surname.. hirap mag fill up ng kahit anu ahhaah. at ang hirap gumawa ng bagong pirma!! hmmm bket ba di ko to naisip isulat lol hahha
anyways mine is up mare ko! mwah mwah
@Niko,
Mare ko, hirap nga talaga mag adjust sa first year, di lang sa ugali, pati na rin sa name, ehehehe.. But, it’s so great to feel that you are finally a “wife” of someone you really love and adore.
hahahha! this is different story too! Hi, i really like this meme!
Entered mine sweet liz:)
@Tejan,
Hey there ms Janeth, I am so glad that you really like this meme! I hope that the following topics would still be fun for all of us.
hahahaaa! nice one, Mommy Liz! as for me, it took a year before i could prance around naked in broad daylight with hubby in the same room hahhaaaa!
you are right, no one is perfect. but our husbands are perfect in our eyes. we love them for their flaws, we love them because the are clumsy, we love them because their action speaks louder than a thousand words. they make us feel perfect with their imperfections. and that makes them perfect before our eyes
ang gulo noh? but when you are in-love you would understand hihi.
my entry is here http://kcelebration.blogspot.com/2009/11/couples-corner-first-365-days.html
@Kero,
Tama ka, kahit pa anong sabihin ng iba, para sa aking mata, si Rodney ang pinaka gwapo, pinaka perfect sa lahat, eh bakit nga hindi, I married him, didn’t i?? hehehehe..
This soo true!!Ang asawa ko naman sobrang walang hiya lol!!Kaya meron cyang penalty pag umutot cya at dahil dun,mabilis ang pagpuno ng alkancya namin lol!!\(^0^)/
I’ll be back with a link,Mommy Liz–kararating ko lang galing sa school ni Wakaba at magluluto na ako ng dinner namin.wwaahhh!!wala na ata akong time?!!
@Clarissa,
Naku, eh pareho pala si Rodney ng asawa mo, hehehe..yun nga si Rdoney, after umotot kapag magkatabi kami sa kama, sabay itatalukbong ang blanket, kawalang hiya, gusto akong patayin sa suffocation..Hehehe..but it’s really fun. Kahit ano pang gawin ng mga hubbies natin na nakakainis, parang ok lang kasi loves natin sila di ba??
weeeh the only thing that sometimes i cannot stand with his snore also, but Im worried because sometimes he seems like he is more exhaling than inhaling wahhh
@Anne,
naku, eh talang yang snoring ang medyo mahirap makasanayan, para kang dinadaanan ng train papuntang bicol kapag nakakarinig ka ng naghihilik, but, you will learn to love that too, kapag loves mo si hubby mo.
laughing about the farting and going on the toilet,heheheh.. that is so true before you get married all the inhibition is still there but once you tie the knot something seems to get unknotted as well,hehehe.. This meme is great, ill be joining it.. thanks letting us look into your marriage.
@Melody, first of all, thanks for the comment. and thanks for joining. I hope that I will see you every week. Di ba naman kapag kasal na eh prang iba na ang feeling eh. Kahit matagal ng magkasama, prang iba talaga once na kasala na, para bang you are one in everything.. kahit magkahawak kamay lang, parang iba ang love na nararamdaman..drama noh??
Agree with you mommyliz, tagal lahat ng inhibition pagkasal na. Me iether I don’t want perfect person as there is no such thing as perfect.
Ang bait mo talagang maybahay mommyliz, you accepted everything. look forward for more interesting stuff and learn about you guys.
@ shydub, aba sino ba ang gusto ng perfect na tao? naku ha, baka lagi lang kaming mag away kapag pupunahin ang aking gagawin..oks na sa akin si hubby lovey ko, he’s perfect for me..as i am perfect for him..hehehe
Ako naman 18byears na kaming mag-asawa but then I can’t still fart in front of him ‘though wala na ring hiya hiya when after I used the toilet the he entered & telling me woah!I thought I’m about to die!I absolutely disagree on that saying Mommy liz that…couples are only sweet and romantic while they are still unmarried, but when they tied the knot, it’s over..
Because untill now the warmth & heartfeeling I felt for my husband’s alwys there hindi nagbabago & he felt the same way too.Lagi pa rin kaming magsama & hindiako nagsasawa on his jokes.He can still make me laugh at his jokes.I remeber some of my friends telling me na sa umpisa lang yan 3 years or more magsasawa din kayo!But they are all wrong!Now pag nakikita nila kami they would ask me..hindi ba kayo nagsasawa & I definitely gave my answer to then absolutely we’re not!
I love your story Mommy it has similarity the feelings I have towards my husband.Sorry for my late entry Mommy!:D Mwah!
@ Seiko..Hehehe, kapag pala mahal tayo ng ating mga hubbies, ok lang kahit halos mamatay sila sa amoy ng banyo after we used it, hehehe. Dami ko ngang naririnig na sabi nila, yugn sweetness daw eh pang ilang taon lang, I beg to disagree, kasi ga ngayon sweetness kami ni Rodney ko eh, para kaming laging newly weds, walang halong biro..
correct mommyLiz, i do agree everything you said here…from the farting time hehheheh or ung pag poo poo, to accepting each other’s faults, mistakes or whatsoever… and it is indeed true na we didn’t marry our husband to change them…but it is the husband’s choice if they’ll do something bad that can cause trouble to the marraige.. I also agree na kahit married na ang couple andun parin yung sweetness…hindi nwawala yun pwera nalang kong hindi mahal ang isa’t isa.. pero kong merong true love, the sweetness, nglalast un.. and Yep..no one is perfect and i don’t wanna marry a saint either hehehhe….Ung trials naman sis Liz, yakang-yaka basta kasama natin ang mahal nating mga aswang…i mean asawa pala hehehe
@chuchie, tama ka dyan, basta kasama natin ang mga mahal natin, kahit anong sibat, kaya nating harapin, hehehe..aray, kasakit kaya non. at tama ka rin na you won’t want to marry a saint, naku, lagi kang pagdadasalin, hehehe..joke lang.
hi Liz natatawa ako diyan sa he can’t put his laundry to the basket… ay naku mapreho sila ni hubs ko… and one thing pa nga hindi niya binabalik yung toilet cover kakainis hehehe pareho love kasi eh..ay nkau
@Lindz, hahaha..kala ko hubby ko lang ang hindi makalagay ng dirty laundry sa basket, kahit katabi lang eh, once in a while may mga toilet seat incidents kami, tuloy lagi akong muntik mapaupo sa tubig ng bowl, but sabi mo nga, love eh, hahaha, kaya pagpasensiyahan na lang. eka siguro nila, kaya gna sila nag asawa para may tagapulot ng kanilang maruming damit, hehehe..
aww.. 100% AGREE!!! hiya is being set aside and acceptance is always on the back up.. we all have flaws and imperfections, but when there’s love.. it’s never hard to accept that at all.. haay.. I’m happy that you are sealing that sweetness, ate liz.. it shouldn’t escape anywhere.. it should be there together with the vows.. I’m gald to be back.. miss you ate liz!!!
Late na naman ako as ever. Sensya na di ako makasulat ng mahaba come to think of it ang dami nga palang maliliit na detalye ang pwedeng isulat gaya ng sinabi mo ‘pag-utot’ hehe. disgusting noh but we still love our man more than ever kahit ano pa amoy ng utot na yan. LOLz.
that is so true, no matter what if you love each other, then it conquers everything!
Mine is up as well mommy, sorry so late na…
natawa ako sa cnabi mo mami liz na di nya man lagay yung pinaghubaran nya naku ganyan din si hubby, kahit yung anak nya kaya ako minsan hinahampas ko sa kanila haha pero ala lang
hello liz, check ko lang theme.. gawin ko ng maaga habang may free time hehehe.. dami palang kasali, di ako masyado nakabloghop last week wahhhhhh