Rodliz Nest…

Archive for August, 2010

                               Taken in Canada August 27th 2010

It’s Couple’s Corner again and although I still have jet lag from our Canada vacation, I am so excited to post an entry today. I don’t know why, but I do.

Anyways, this week’s topic is about helping each other. We can help each other in so many ways. Others would say the wife can help by working as well, or like me, I help my husband by being a stay at home mom. He loves it that I am home whenever he comes home from work. There are times that his dinner is not ready yet when he comes home, but most of the time it is on the table. I might not be the perfect wife or mother who cleans the house constantly, but I will do.

Marriage is a team work..and when there’s team work, the relationship will succeed. We can also help each other by being thoughtful, understanding and strong. We would need to depend on each other in times of crisis. Who do you ask for help if you need something to be done at home? if you are sad and you have something on your mind, who do you ask first? When you just want to talk and unwind, who do you have in mind? Your spouse, who’s always by your side no matter what happens.

Vice versa, he would seek you out when he needs or wants something, when he feels lonely and troubled, he would talk to you, just to lift up whatever he’s carrying on his shoulder. Money is not the only thing that we can offer to say that we help our spouses. It’s US, our moral support, our love, understanding of they needs and most especially, our LOVE that would keep our marriage last FOREVER.

Rodney knows that through thick and think, I will stay with him as long as he needs and wants me in his life. (echos!) and he knows that I need him in my life for it to be complete. When nobody is around to lend a helping hand, your spouse will be there to to give your theirs including shoulder to cry on and body to hug. I know mine will, like he promised me he will…

Happy CC Everyone!!!

It’s been 5 years now that I am jobless. I can work if I want too, but my husband prefers that I stay home and take care of the kids. With all the bills that we have every month, working will help us great. So, I had been thinking of a way how to make money without leaving the house. Then a home based business came to mind, I can make money while I am home watching my kids and taking care of the house. Having business at home can be the best choice for a stay at home moms like me.  I can start with little investment and make it prosper in no time. I just need to learn the ins and outs of the business. If you are interested in having a business at home, we can joint forces and talk about it, we may learn from each other.

01st- We Help and Support Each Other- It talks about what do we do to make sure we give our partners moral support, help them when we think that they needed help, or just a boost  and motivation.

08th-Trust, Faith and Loyalty- How can we prove our being loyal, that we are faithful and that we trust each other.

115th-Sensitivity- who’s more sensitive, how do we know that we are being sensitive or insensitive and do we try to improve our attitude?

22th-The Hardest Days of Our Marriage- in all marriages, time will come that hard days happen. You don’t have to make an entry if you never had these kind of days or stage in your marriage life.

29th-What We wanted from Each Other- what do we expect from each other. Do we want them to change their bad habits, be more thoughtful, more loving, caring or do we want them to be more sensitive of our feelings or something like that..we can stay the way we are..

Happy CC Everyone and I will see you all on Wednesday!!

Since we have 2 little ones, I asked my husband 2 years ago if we can have a swing set. He said sure we can. So we did get one. The cheap ones that when you swing a little stronger than usual, it feels like it will tip over. I told him, I want a sturdy one like wooden swing set that way, we are at peace when the kids start to play. Our kids can play rough sometimes, especially the older ones. Don’t you want your kids to play safe with the safest swing set you can ever find? It might take time to have it built, but it will last a long time. It can probably still be there by the time your kids have their own kids. Money is sometimes not important when it comes to the safety of our children. We are willing to spend money and time just to make sure that our little ones are enjoying their time playing, and we have great time watching them and not worrying  about the swing tipping over.

With so many things going on around, protecting your homes is a must. I still remember when we first moved in to our house, my neighbor came over to warn us about locking our cars even if it’s parked in our driveway. Someone had broken in to their car and got some valuable items.  After a week, the same people came back to break to their other car, but she was thankful that they installed a driveway alarm and were able to chase the 2 guys and went to jail. So,  our neighborhood formed a neighborhood watch those first few months. But after that incident, we are now quiet and peaceful.  I don’t know how to handle burglary in case I came across one, but I am praying that I don’t come to that.  We have to be aware of people pretending to do census, or some suspicious character that are just observing our everyday routine.

They say that LOVE- means never having to say you’re sorry…

I didn’t think so. Saying sorry is one way of admitting your wrong doing, sorry is a 5 letter word that if said to others can make them feel better. Admitting to  your fault is not going to  kill you, instead, it can make you be a better person.

Lots of times, being prideful can never solve anything, especially with couples, if one cannot say sorry to the other, it’s when problem arises. How hard it is to admit you did something wrong. Is it too painful to swallow your pride especially if it was your fault?

I can  personally say   that saying sorry is not a habit of mine, but if I know that I was at fault, then I give it. Apologizing to anyone especially your loved ones is the best thing you can do to make things run smoothly, if it’s your doing, but if not.. oh well, that’s another story.

It’s just recently that I had to say SORRY to my hubby. I know I was at fault, and I knew I made him angry, and while I was digesting it, I felt bad myself. I thought I was going to ignore that fact that I treated my husband so bad. I was about to just read my book and maybe everything will be OK the next day. But, I just cannot let it pass without Rodney and I talking about it. 

I decided that I need to talk to him, so I asked him if he wanted something to eat (my way of opening a conversation) I can tell that he’s hurt, and then he asked me why I was acting bad lately. We had a serious heart to heart conversation. You can read the whole story in my other entry.

This is when we poured our heart out. I told him I was sorry, said the word with all my heart, and I felt better. I was thinking that, I was so bad, my husband was working 12-14 hours a day to give us better life and yet, I was so ungrateful and cannot even take care of him. But knowing my husband, he forgives me easily as long as I promised that I will never do it again. then you know how we ended up (that’s when simple SORRY is not enough)

You can read the story here.

When I am the one who’s mad at him, he won’t stop until we settle whatever was the cause of it, and he won’t let me go to bed mad.  The next day, I would expect a box of shrimp or anything that he knows I like. Hehehe! I guess, I should be mad at him often, so I get all my faves..

Not saying what you have to say, and not admitting you’re at fault can damage  the lives of married couple. This could be the beginning of not talking, not communicating and without communication, separation and divorce will soon come. If there’s anything that you want to tell your spouses, or if there’s something that you need to be sorry about, voice it out. They will understand. Don’t be so prideful not to admit you made a mistake. If he loves you, he will forgive you and vice versa. Nobody’s perfect, we all make mistakes..

Have you told your spouses sorry lately?? or you never have anything to be sorry about? Join use here at Couple’s Corner and share with us about your successful  marriage life and we can all learn from it.

Older people who retire and getting Medicare sometimes need assistance to decide or to explain to them what they need to get or what they are getting.  When we get older, most of the time we get confused about things around us.  Most elderly are happy that there is a Medicare part D plan that they can rely on when they have questions about their Medicare benefits. They help them find doctors that best suit their needs, help them with their prescription and even regarding their financial situations. It’s good thing there is  Allsup Medicare Advisor that pretty much take care of everything for the elderly. Applying and  waiting for the result is not an easy task  for someone who is retired and wanting  a simple retirement days..Allsup Medicare Advisor does it for them.

rodney’s been complaining of pain on his feet lately. I believe it’s due to working 12-14 hours a day. The other night, he asked me to massage his feet and while I was doing it, I can tell that he’s in pain. There was a knot under his left foot and  it hurts so bad.

I had been pushing  him to go see a podiatrist before his feet get worst. I bought him new pairs of socks coz I was thinking it could be his worn out socks. He wears a nice steel toe work shoes and thick socks, but because he’s on his feet all day, it’s not impossible for his feet to ache.

Knowing my husband, he won’t go see a doctor until he can’t handle it anymore. I just hope that he listens to me. Well, he said what would the doctor tell him about his feet? or what kind of medicine can the doctor prescribe? I said, maybe since it’s the foot doctor, he can prescribe something that make his feet better. But, since he’s knuckle head, then he will suffer the consequences of not going to see a doctor, as simple as that.

I was just worrying about him and I want to make sure he won’t lose his foot due to being hard headed man. Hmp!

While I was talking to my husband the other night, I mentioned to him that the kids got a hold of my laptop again. so, he knew from that moment that the kids did something horrible to it, like the last time they played with it. He already promised me that by Christmas, he would get me a netbook, so he’s been going through netbook reviews to find  which would he get for me.  I told him, I want something simple for my simple mind, coz he knows I am not very good with computers.

Anyways, he said he would teach me how to use it, how to understand media card reader, and how to operate the built in webcam and so on and so forth. Knowing myself, I don’t even know what hard drive means but he said, in no time, I would be able to figure out. I will know how to upload pictures from my digital camera, cell phone and even GPS. Wow, how many more months before Christmas, gosh! I have 4 more months to go?? That’s too long. Hmmm…I am so excited.

Do you have medical insurance? If you don’t, I am telling you now, get one, especially if you have a family. It’s very crucial that you have a health insurance. There are hospital that can give you very limited treatment due to no insurance. You can always get a quote from all the insurance companies you can find online. If you are in North Carolina area, you can also search for health insurance in nc and see if it’s affordable. Most of the time, the reason for not getting health insurance is due to monthly premium that sometimes can’t fit your budget. But, if you or any member of your family got hospitalized, it would be more expensive if you have to pay everything out of your pocket. There is always options and you can pick the plan that is best for you and your family.