NOTE: Since some of our blogger friends live in another countries, I will post this Meme early.
Marriage is not like hot rice that if you got burnt, you can spit it out (Ang pag aasawa ay di parang kaning isusubo mo na kapag napaso ka eh pwede mong iluwa) says who???? Divorce is available now, hehehe..
Before we even got married, Rodney already gave me a wedding band as a present in Christmas 2002.
Liz: "Why did you give me a ring? we’re not married yet, and by the way, is this real?"
Rodney: I know, but for me, we are already married, I love you, you love me, we have a son, we’re together, the only thing that we don’t have is the paper that says we’re married. And of course that’s real, I got that from the pawnshop!"
Anyway, we weren’t able to get married until April 09, 2004 in Illinois. We went to the courthouse in Wheaton, our only witness was my son Dan, who I guess was 10 years old then. My father wasn’t able to go with us, he was sick due to radiation treatment, he was in tears, he’s been wanting to see me get married. My mom was watching Roan that time. We didn’t even tell my aunt’s family that we were getting married. We didn’t even have pictures, since I forgot to bring my camera, at least I already had my ring, been wearing it for almost two years. There was really nothing special about our wedding, nor the engagement, not even the way he proposed, because he didn’t. We just thought that because we love each other and we want to share our lives together, we said " Let’s get married, Baby!"
TO LOVE AND TO HOLD, TIL DEATH DO US PART
We got to the courthouse, where couples and their families were waiting patiently to be called in to the room. Majority of the brides looked really nice, and they had their family’s support. I felt so sad that it’s just us. Anyways, we got called and the judge married us and we said I DO. After the ceremony, I went to work and he did too. No reception since we didn’t have money. Now that I was thinking about it, it was so sad that our wedding day was supposed to be the happiest and joyful moment of our lives. It was the happiest in a way that we do love each other and finally I can carry his last name, sad because we celebrated it silently.
Since the day we moved in together until this morning when he came home from work and kissed me, our love is the same, or maybe even stronger. It’s not how expensive the ring is , not how long the engagement and how fancy your wedding was. It’s the LOVE that binds us until we both meet each other on the other side of our lives. We were talking about having church wedding someday, but as soon as we thought about the expenses, we were like "nahh, the kids need the money more than our wedding does." Maybe when the kids are already out of the house, we will buy an RV and just travel, wahhhh! we will be old by then and we will probably having arthritis or what have yah!
That’s all Folks, and I wish you all a great day ahead of you. I will see again next week for “The first 30 days of being married” That should be exciting!
Oh di ba, di ako late ngayon
! Liz, I always admire you and your love story; it is very unique, interesting and yet a very successful one; full of love and everything including trials… but hey look at you, guys …you are still madly in love together. congrats again, Liz and Rod.
Indeed, the success of the marriage can not be measured by how much wealth you have or how elaborate and grand it was, but by unfailing love, support, compromise, respect and working hand in hand with the Lord to make it even stronger…and you two closer!
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one thirty na dito mom liz but gising pa ako hehehe.. ngayon ko na ginawa yung post mko kasi day off ng asawa ko bukas di na naman ako makakapagblog wahhhhhhh.. Di naman importante ang magarbong kasalan, what matters most is what you feel for each other diba.. Anyhow, sign off na ang byuti ko at ang aking dysmenorrhea eh ayaw akong tantanan wahhhhhh..
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para talaga kayo sa isa’t isa..hhehe! you know what? your love story is in some way different..unusual but interesting! thanks again for sharing to us your story and this meme!
Godbless!
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Hi Liz tama ka it’s more of teh kids not us anymore hehehe.. kung iisipin mo nga naman ang gastos sa wedding eh aatras ka talaga kasi it’s very commercialise sila ngayon eh from invitation to reception kulang ang 10 gran.. sige hanggang sa muli, every wednesday ba tong cc na to kala ko thursday,
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and Liz ala ka kasing follow button kaya hindi kita masubaybayan..
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well anyway it is the love that counts liz more than anything mine would be up soon hehehe
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hehehe girl mamaya ko na sana i post kaya lang di na ako makaantay eh hehehe heres mine http://www.terryannemary.com/2009/11/couples-corner-5-day-we-said-i-do.html mamaya na ako mag leave ng comment sa ibang members kasi bayad pa ako ng insurance whahh
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just like u mare i am wishing of marrying someday in church.. with both our family present na sana.. un lng wish ko magkaksama sama and two families.. sobrang maggiging msaya na ko and i can die right after LOL
pinakasimple lang at wlang masyadong gastos, oks n ko. pero san ba wlang masyadong gastos na kasalan?? so wag na lng siguro.. pag nanalo n lng ako sa lotto hahaha. and if that happens mare sagot ko na kasal nio pramis! wink
anyways, thanks for inspiring me today.. mwah mwah
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love your story liz, thanks for sharing it! Mine is up as well!
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Hi sis, I felt crying reading your marriage day story. Somehow I can relate to you kasi. In my wedding there wasn’t anything fancy, but what’s more important was the love that was present and made it possible.
Love really sis is the excellent way.
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the reception?!…… gash, i don’t even remember the small restaurant we took our invited witnesses hihi.
Like you, i was alone on my wedding. nobody from my family attended because my grannies were too old to travel.
and like you also, we were married with two other couples…with the two brides preggers. yep i was the only one without a bulging tummy.
we may not have the perfect wedding day but it is the vows we exchanged that matters. it is what we celebrate before the eyes of God — represented by the judge.
I love your story Mommy Liz. every wedding story is beautiful in its own special way
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hay mommy liz…i can relate on your story…i was alone during my wedding too…nobody from my family was present….only our witness who are both relatives of my hubby and his siblings…no enough money also infact inutang pa ung ginastos sa kasal namin…
neway, nde nman importante kung gaano kabongga ang kasal ang mahalaga naging legal ang pagsasama nio….
love your story po..
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what important is you’re happy and contented together. it’s the love that matters ika nga. ang dami nyo talagang pinagdaanan na nagpatibay sa inyo kaya saludo ako
mine is up now.
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I do believe that as long as love is there & that we have the key to it is the all important thing.And I agree w/ Chubskulit.
I do really love your love story Mommy.And it shows perseverance on how you felt for him.I admire you for being so strong & firm in every decissions you’d made that brought you both into a happy ending love story.Wish you both more happiness.God Bless!
Btw,thanks for informing me ’bout your new menu,I’ll be back again later to visit that new menu.:D
My CC’s up now:D
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@ Ate Cecile-
Hehehe, oo nga di ka talga late now. Thanks for joining this week’s Meme. Alam mo, di ko nga alam kung bakit sobrang nag stick ako kay Rodney eh, hahaha! kahit puro paghihirap sa pera ang buhay namin. I guess, kasi kita ko namang masikap siya sa buhay at he respects me so much. He’s a great father and he always giveshis best in everything that he does for the sake of his family. Sa kanya, family first before anything else. Kaya ga ngayon, loves ko pa rin ng todo, kahit nakakainis minsan. Hehehe/
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@Chubskulit.
Tama ka dyan Rose, ang kasalan di need na garbo, may iba talagang lucky enough to have nice wedding. What matters is, we love each other di ba? Hay, dream ko pa naman yung nakasakay sa kalesa, wahahhaha! ala Princess D and Prince Charles of England..
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@Tejan-
Unusual and different ba ang aking love story?? puro financial problem nga, hehehe! we started kasi na tlagang no money in our pocket, hehehe ga ngayon naman, la pa rin datung. But, siguro yun ang reason kaya kami pa rin. Kaya ayokong yumaman, baka lagi na lang akong mag shopping eh iwan ako ni hubby. hehehehe!
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@Lindz-
Kulang ang 10K sa kasalan?? naku ha, never mind..oks na kami, ahahhaa..sa mga anak ko na lang. If ever na makasal kami sa chapel, I won’t spend that much money. buti na lang at ang mga family ko eh malayo, ehehehe..family lang ni hubby eh di pa naman sila mga close, kaya konti lang ang need na food,. ehehehe. Kung sa province namin, dyos me, kahit di invited, pupunta at makiki tsibug..
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@Anne-
Tama ka dyan, it’s the love that counts. kahit walang garbo di ba? Lucky you, you had a grand wedding,t apos loves pa kau ni Terry, hehehe..Muah!
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@Niko-
I have to write your promise in paper with ink or black ink, hahaha! Para kapag nanalo ka sa lotto eh may ipapakita akong document.
anyway, as of now, OK na kami na hindi kami kinasal sa church, but kapag one day at meron kaming extra, we can get married dito sa Chapel ng mga in laws ko, and I won’t need a lot of money, konti lang kasi sila, hahaha..Di namin invite ang mga di kumakausap sa amin. Buti ang asawa ko di friendly, tuloy konti ang aming friendship, hehehe!
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@Pinaymama-
Thanks, I am glad that you love my story..I love yours as well. Iba iba talaga ang mga kwento ng pag ibig..
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@ sweet_shelo
MInsan kapag iniisip ko ang aking life during that time, I would realize that, dami na rin pala naming pinagdaanang hirap, but I am so happy na until now, we still love each other so much. We still cuddle and we joke around, and kapag nakiktia kami ng ibang tao, they think that we were newly weds, hehehe..
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@Kero
So, you were the only one without bulging tummy, hehehe. Hay naku, kapag nasa edad na, di na need ng witness, hahaha! saka, mahal nyo naman ang isa’t isa, yuna ng mahalaga di ba? Look at you now, super happy kahit di grand ang wedding..
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@Sheng,
ay naku, pareho nga pala tayo ng wedding situation. Di bale ng inutang, minsan talga wala tayong choice but to di ba? Super happy ka siguro ha, hehehe..Finally, you are a wife…not just a girlfriend..
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@Rossel,
Hay naku, kugn sa pinagdaanan lang, super dami, susme, eh buti nga at mahal namin ang isa’t isa, saka di kami makikitid na tao, otherwise, baka di kami magkatuluyan, at buti sanay ako sa hirap, hahaha! balewala sa akin ang financial difficulty. at least now, di na ako nagtatanim ng sibuyas, oh ha!
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@Seiko
Thank you for those nice words that you mentioned about my perseverance and being firm of my decision. Ganon naman di ba? nee dlang talaga na focused ka sa isang bagay na gusto mong gawin. I made a choice of sticking around him, and after all those trials, we’re still strong and we are still so much in love. Siguro naisip niya na di naman ako materialistic na tao..na kahit wala siyang maibigay na magarbong buhay eh, kasama pa rin niya ako sa hirap at ginhawa..
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talagang tinanong kung tunay ang singsing! hahahah! Ok lang na naging vey simple ang kasal nyo ang mahalaga e naikasal kayo at nakakapagsama ng matiwasay at maligaya and super in love!! o diba?!
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me too, wishing we could be married inside the church..
pero sa ngayon, madaming mas kelangang unahin…which i think na mas importante..
nagiging praktikal na tayo ngayon. eh ang gastos pa naman magpakasal sa simbahan lalo na kung may malaking pamilya..hehehe
mine’s up.. although late..hehe
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Hi Liz. thanks for the comment and for all the nice words.
Actually, hindi muna kami magpapakasal dito ng hindi pa ako swedish citizen kasi daming papers that need to change eh. For example, surename ko, status ko, passport ko, and lot more. Plan talaga naman saka na if citizen na ako atleast isang padala na alng sa stockholm. Takes few months daw bago mabago lahat eh…heheh
Antay na lang ako ah para na rin isan trabaho na alng lahat
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It is also my dream to get married in church but it did not happened. Hmmm it is ok as long as you too are together. Mine is ready.
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@anney
aba, eh baka bigyan ako ng singsing na nakakaitim ng daliri, isosoli ko yun sa kanya. I had a chance to buy him his ring, 2005 na yata. Tama ka, ang mahalaga eh in love pa rin kami, di ba??
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@ prettymom
Hehehe! tumpak ka dyan kesa sa uunahin na ang ibang importante kesa sa wedding expenses. tutal kasal na kami, di ba? Naku kapag sa Pilipinas nagpakasal, at malaking pamilya, 5 baka ang itutumba, hahaha! Kapag OK na ang finance namin, we can always get married dito sa Barnett chapel, then my FIL can do the ceremony since he’s a preacher. and the reception can be held sa isang banquet hall ng town and it’s free, basta linisan lang after the wedding. Oh di ba? Our kids will be the groomsmen and brides maids..remember, we have 6 kids altogehter, wahhh ang dami!! But, konti lang ang family member, kaya di rin ganon ka expensive. Sarap din kaya mangarap.
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@ MOmgen
naku, hayaan mo na yang wedding na di sa church, pare pareho na lang tayo, hehehe.. ang mgahalaga eh happily married tayo sa lalaking mahal natin di ba? minsan wala sa kasal yan eh, nasa mag asawa di ba?? As long na tayo eh maligaya, civil wedding is just enough..
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Agoyy..hapit ko nalate dagway….you have a very interesting love story sis ah.it’s not how nice the wedding was, is, will be or how romantic the proposal was…what matters most is the feelings towards each other… as long na both of you were happily living together being husband and wife, un ang importante… your husband ’s quote is so sweet..esp. ung line na “we are already married” wish all the best to the both of you.
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hello MommiLiz, i am back here.. after pala sa wedding namin, gary stayed here in Philippines from May 18, 2008 til Sept. 08….long vacay malaking bayaran din for overstaying, then last Christmas..vacay xa ulit..until now a very long vacay talaga sa work…he took a leave muna or actually quit talaga until now..nawili xa sa Christmas dito sa atin masyadong masaya kaya eto plan na naman niya dito magpasko so bali mg-1 yr na talaga xa dito, but he still have to go to back work na by end of december, then balik na naman sa dati every four months xa makapagvacation for only 15 days dito sa Pinas
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Hi Mommyliz, as usual I had a good laugh reading at your funny adlib hehe. Ang pera nga na man ano, kung mayroon lng tayo marami niyan, we could have wear white dress and have bongacious reception hehe. Kakabilib ka talaga, hindi mn lng nag iba ang ka sweetan kahit walang wala ang asawa.
I love your lovestory ever, bahala saging basta labing hehehe. Buti sayo mommyliz, may ring na galing pawnshop hehe. kami isang ring lang yata kaya sa bulsa.
Anyway, pang lima na pala itong CC? akala ko pang apat pa ang bilis ahh. i missed the last CC though.
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rodliz Reply:
November 13th, 2009 at 12:22 pm
@shydub- ang pera eh nahahanap yan ng madali, pero ang great in everything hubby (hmm..wink) yan ang one in amillion. Need I say more? Sanay naman ako sa hirap, so oks lang kahit lagi nalang kaming poor, wahhhh!
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buti kau may reason na di nakarating parents nyo sa courthouse yung sister ko sa maryland di man lang inimbita yung nag alaga sa knya, kahit yung parents ng BIL ko nagtatampo sa kanila di man lang daw pinaalam na ikakasal cla, were not magkasundo kahit kelan, minura pa ako ng kapatid ko ng pinagsabihan ko, kaya sabi ko nalang i wish na magtagal cla laking amerika kapatid ko kaya ugali nya ugaling american spoiled…talagang ang buhay talaga God is always there pa din sa tin lahat…
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rodliz Reply:
November 13th, 2009 at 12:24 pm
@Grace,
hay naku, may mga ganon talagang tao na ayaw isama ang kanilang mga loved ones sa happiest moments in life nila. oh well! yaan mo na, bakit naman minura ka pa? that’s uncalled for. Naku, eh ignore mo na lang, baka mapaaway ka pa, masabunutan mo pa, hehehe.
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ako din mami Liz…like tsang shy…I had a good laugh….mahilig talaga ang pinoy magpatawa ano…eehhehhe!
anyhow, kahit simple lang yung celebration natin..at least we had our moment..despite of everything….we made it through…ang importante is ang ngayon at ang bukas…..:)
mine is up as well…:)
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rodliz Reply:
November 13th, 2009 at 12:25 pm
@dhemz-
oh di ba? di mahalaga ang grand wedding eh, well kung may pera why not di ba? but even a simple wedding can give a couple a great life through LOVE and everything it has to offer.
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very nice story! xoxo
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rodliz Reply:
November 13th, 2009 at 12:26 pm
@mrsmartinez,
thank you and i hope you can join us too.
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What is important is magkasama na kayo habang buhay–whether you like it or not lol!Ako nga gustong ikasal ulit–this time kay Jenson Button naman hehehee!Napa smile ako sa Let’ s get married baby! Naalala ko ang post mo dati.^_^
Mommy Liza, thank you so much for your comforting words. I’ll have fun,para medyo gumaan ako. Thanks,I’m feeling better now.
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rodliz Reply:
November 13th, 2009 at 12:27 pm
@Clarissa-
sino naman si Jenson Button? kaw ha nagpapantasya ka sa iba, ehehehe! lam mo bang ga ngayon eh sumisigaw ako ng walang sound kapag pinapanood ko si Piolo Pascual, kahit sinasabi nilang bading siya..pinapakilig pa rin niya ako, wihhhh!
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at last nakasali din ako kahit ala pang internet connection..alam mo sis I stayed for an hour sa internet cafe juz to join..LOL! nakakakilig stories dito lalo sayo…full of drama and romance and story mo..Okay lang kahit walang pera basta you can finally live together with man that holds your heart..Ganoon ako noon eh sabi ko sa papa ko it’s okay for me na doon lang kami sa barangay hall basta makasal but God has His ways and I thanks God for our parents who gave us the best on our wedding day..though hindi bongga yon sa iba, I see it as grand coz I saw how God provide everything and that finally I got married after waiting for so long!!! LOL! hirap kaya maghintay ng matagal..LOL! Have a happy day!
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rodliz Reply:
November 13th, 2009 at 12:30 pm
@Jenny,
Tama ka dun, ang mahalaga eh yung makasal at makasama ang man of your dreams (ngek! di naman si hubby ang dream man ko eh) saka kap[ag nag offer ng kasal, oo agad, eh kung aminip at maghanap ng iba, hehehe..
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Pareho pala tayo sis kahit gustuhin natin ang church wedding nagsisink in ang reality na mas kailangan ng family ang budget for something else. Habol ako later ha, gawa na eh kasi may isisingit muna. I’m glad that I was able to join this week.
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rodliz Reply:
November 13th, 2009 at 12:31 pm
@Yami,
Naku, eh practical na talaga ngayon, eh mas kailangan ng mga anak namin ang pera, kaya sa kanila na lang,w ag na sa amin.. ang importante eh sakal..eheste kasal na kami at ako’y sa kanya at siya’s sa akin (ewww..ang baduy)
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wow sis that’s a great story. Di naman kailangan ng engradeng kasal dba? Coz that is not a guarantee na porque maganda kasal that means maganda ang “marriage”.
I wanna join this meme kaso I dunno kung kailan dapat mag-post
TC
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@Noreen,
Every Wednesday itong Meme na to..it’s fun, I love reading all of our stories, it can make you laugh, cry and in love. True stories of successful marriages..
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I know how you it feels as our wedding is not grand din.. may handa naman, may mga bisita.. kaso di man lang kame nakaayos haha.. kahit lipostik wala.LOL
sometimes pad umaattend ako gn wedding, parang ang sarap mangarap na sana may ganun din tayo na wedding ano.. pero syempre.. bago pa tayo tuluyang malunod kakapangrap, biglang papasok ung mahadera at praktikal side natin hehe..
and totoo naman na wala ding difference sa pagsasama natin if we had that kind of wedding.. pero try natin pag tama natin sa lotto, pakasal tayo ng bongnag bonga.. you want that marce?
hehe
by the way, about sa sling, nope.. hindi po naiipit si sati hihi..
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kaloka ka talaga ate liz! at tinanong mo pa talaga kung tunay? hahaha!!! ako naman, I better have the simplest wedding than to have a tragedy on my big day.. sweet nga ni daddy rod eh.. sabi nga ni ruffa gutierrez, it’s not on how grand your wedding is, sya nga daw super engrande wedding, sa hiwalayan din naman natuloy.. LOL..
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rodliz Reply:
November 20th, 2009 at 7:44 pm
Tama ka dyan, wala sa kasal kasal yan eh, may mga kinasal nga ng engrande, naghiwalay naman di ba? I’d rather had my court wedding, magkasama pa naman kami ga ngayon at in love pa rin kami sa isa’t isa..
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I have finished na nga pala may entry on this topic.. I know its super duper late.. but maybe you may want to read back.. here’s mine
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