I had stages of dream man while growing up, I mean..once I started having crushes, that’s when I began having the man of my dreams.

Elementary days- I dreamed of marrying a handsome and rich man. I guess, because we were so poor that I wanted to become rich.

High School days- since the group MENUDO was so popular those days, I was dreaming of marrying Robbie Rosa, one of the singers. I would watch their show during the night and scream silently, My dream man during those times was, handsome, singer and famous.

College days- It’s Richard Gomez popularity- so my dream man was “tall, dark and handsome” not bad eh?

Single Mom days- I guess, I matured a little, so I didn’t have anymore dream man. I just waited until I met someone that I think I like. Because I believed that when I met someone that can make my heart beats faster than sound and someone that will show compassion and care for me and my son, that’s when I would say, yup, “it’s him”..

When I met Rodney  the first time, he wasn’t even my type, he’s too tall, too skinny and too white and mind you, he’s American, hehehe! I didn’t realize that we were going to end up being married with 3 kids . I just sort a thought he was so nice and from the day we started learning each other’s characters, that’s when I found out that, “dream man , or Mr. Right” never really exist. It’s how you accept and learn to love each other, flaw and all, that’s when you can say that “ oh yeah, this man is the right one for me”

Sometimes, you would ask a woman about her dream man and she would answer you this ”Ohhh..I want a romantic, thoughtful, passionate, intelligent, faithful, handsome, and super duper hunk” Wohooo..wait a minute.. Is there such thing as that kind of man?? I don’t think so.. Even the most handsome actor in Hollywood won’t have all these qualifications, wanna bet?

Once you found this man that will love you for who and what you are, who would put your life before theirs, who makes plan for the future with you in it? Then, I can say, go ahead and marry him. Not all men do this kind of thing, not all men are sweet and compassionate enough to show so much love, by rubbing your back, massaging your feet, putting vapor on your chest when you’re congested, put cough drops in your mouth when you’re coughing. I believe that I am one of those lucky women who has a great and wonderful husband who always thinks of how to satisfy his wife in any way he can Was I right, or was I Right??? (Honey, is your head getting big now? ) He’s sometimes pain in the butt, but.. I love him just the same. peace, Baby!

So, if you ask me  if I married my dream man?? my answer to that is NO, I didn’t. But I married the man that made my DREAM come true. “ Having a wonderful married life and great  family”

What about you, did you marry your dream man? Care to share with us???

To honor this month of May, all our topics will be about motherhood and parenthood. We cannot be born in this world without our mothers, and we cannot be a mother without our partner, so they are also included in here. For this week, we would like to introduce our mothers, the ones carried us for 9 months inside their wombs, risked their lives during delivery and took care of us when we were little. I know that some of you are not close to your mothers, or don’t have a good relationship with them but it doesn’t mean that you won’t introduce them to all of us.

We always have to remember, we owe them our lives and no matter what, our mothers played the other biggest role in our existence in this world. Without them, we won’t be around..

Meet our mothers:

This is my mother Digna Agustin, originally from Guimba Nueva Ecija, Philippines. She’s now 61 years old. She lives with us since 2002, helping me with the kids. She is a very quiet woman, but can be loud if provoked. She is willing to sacrifice everything she has for the sake of her children. She loves to sing Karaoke, she’s diabetic and now on medication. I cannot say that she is  my best friend because sometimes, she looks at life in a negative way. I cannot tell her anything about love life or about some problems due to the fact that she reacts so quick and negatively so, I better keep it to myself. She sacrificed a lot when we were young, worked overseas and away from us to help with finance and all that. But, one thing I can tell about my mom, she is willing to die and kill for us,  and I  would love her until my last breath. Happy Mother’s Day Madir!

This is Barbara Bacallao born in Illinois, Rodney’s mom and my mother-in-law. She lives in New York. From time to time she comes over to visit. Last time she came was last year, it was May 2009. She’s a very generous person, will be 56 on the 25th of this month. We can talk about anything. They send the kids money for birthdays and Christmas which is really awesome. Even if they live far away, we call each other and we can joke about everything. Happy Mother’s Day Mom!

Meet Brenda Barnett originally from Gary, Indiana, Rodney’s step -mom, and also my mother in-law. They live here in Alabama, about 15-20 minutes away from us. We see them often, especially the kids, they go to church together. She is the same age as my mother. She’s a  quiet person as well, very nice and if you go to their house, she would ask you if you need anything, and she would make you feel welcome. She seems to be a very private person, but we get along very well. Happy Mother’s Day Mom!

There, it’s not hard to introduce our mothers to the blog world!! Happy Mother’s day to all the  mothers!!!!!!

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Couple’s Corner again my dear friends, and this week, our topic is about being best friends with our husbands. Can you call your hubbies your  best friends? I can, I tell my hubby about everything. He knows me better than I know myself.

I guess that when we chose to marry our partners, we consider them as our friends and husbands. They are someone that we share our lives with. When we are with them, we can be ourselves, we can be looking untidy and yet, they still love us. We don’t have to act differently, we don’t need to hide our feelings.

When I married my husband, I knew that he can be a friend to me, that I can share with him my innermost feeling. He knows when I am feeling down, he knows every mood I am in. Before I married him, I only knew very little about his past, I guess, because our relationship moved so fast and quick, before we know it, we’re together. But, as we lived our lives together, we managed to share our feelings and we became transparent to one another. We became closer than ever and we share our feelings and dreams. He can talk to me about his past and so can I. We tell each other what we don’t like and what we prefer. I share with him about everything. I don’t hide anything, because there is nothing to hide, aside from sometimes, I spend more than I am supposed to (shopping wise).

Marrying and loving our husbands and being their best friend is the greatest thing that can ever happen to us. Can you imagine if you are not open with your hubby and he’s not talking to you about anything? Frustrating, isn’t it? I believe it would be devastating to not be able to reach out to him. I love talking to my husband, sharing my feelings, complaints, whines, and my aggravation and frustration. And I can do this because he is my best friend.

What about you? Is your hubby your best friend? Share with us your story and ideas, we would love to hear from you..

Hi there friends, it’s Couple’s Corner time again, and our topic for this week is about gesture. First of, what does gesture mean? GESTURE- is a movement usually of the body or limbs that expresses or emphasizes an idea, sentiment, or attitude. There you go, it’s some kind of non verbal showing of attitude or emotion.

Sometimes, we can tell how do people feel by their gesture. It can be good or bad, we can tell if they are happy or not. But, anyways..our theme is gestures by couples. So, we are going to list few or a lot of sweet gestures that we do towards our loved ones.

RODNEY

1. He would kiss me from behind while I am doing something, it scares the heck out of me, but most of the time I think it’s sweet.

2. There are times that when I am sick/coughing, he would simply put cough drop in my mouth so I feel better.

3. My husband will cover me up when  it’s cold, and kiss me goodbye before he leaves for work.

4. If he thinks that I am thirsty, he would give me water or soda even if I don’t ask, maybe he can read my mind.

5. If he knows that I am mad at him, he would ask me what I want and he would say, I can get anything that I want, ahahaha! I thought that’s sweet…

6. He would tell the kids to be quiet when I am still in bed and he will let me sleep in, and that I consider a very sweet gesture from him.

LIZ

1. I make my husband his favorite dinner when he gets home from work to surprise him, and will fix his plate, he loves it when I do that.

2. I try to wake up early in the morning to make his lunch, although sometimes he feels sorry for me that he would tell me not to and just stay in bed. (sweet ako, so sweet din siya)

3. When he is sick and being childish, I would give him medicine and water so he gets better. (kasi di yan tatayo, parang bata batuta)

4. I give him massages if I know that he is tired and aching ( well, most of the time, he forces me to give him massage..hehehe)

5. I will give him kisses just cause (then he would ask me what do I want and how much..hehehe)

6. Sometimes, I would be looking at him and lick my lips, and he would smile at me and wink, hahaha!

7. When I want to be naughty, i would spank his butt and then he asks me what’s that for, and I would just say, because he lost his behind by working so much, but I still love him to death..

There are so many ways to show sweet gestures, and people are different, so they show affection in different ways. If you are an observant type of person, you can tell if someone is in the mood or if they are mad about something, you can see through their gestures.

What about you and your spouse/partner? Can you share with us some sweet gestures that you both share? We would love to hear from you all!

Happy Couple’s Corner!!!

Why did I think of this title for this week’s theme? Hmm..now, it’s making me think really deep. Sacrifice- what a term. There are times that I hear people say” I sacrificed everything for you!” What did that mean??

Sacrifice-The term is also used metaphorically to describe selfless good deeds for others or a short term loss in return for a greater gain. Recently it has also come into use as meaning doing without something or giving something up.

I will sacrifice my cheesecake, so Rodney can have more than enough.. NOT!!! hehehe! I will give up my blogging so I can spend more  time with my kids, wahhhhh!! I don’t know about that.. I will walk around our neighborhood everyday to lose weight, hey..that’s sacrifice you know…walking while sweating??? that is a BIG sacrifice, I tell yah!

I guess I thought of this topic because one time in our marriage life, Rodney and I had to live in 2 separate states to be able to give our family a comfortable life. It was when we were still in TN, he got stationed in South Alabama. It was difficult on his side because he’s not used to being away from us. He worked there for over 3 months and he can’t come home every weekend.

We talked online every night, he would watch us sleep on the webcam, he missed the kids and vice versa. He said, he  can’t live like that. He needed his family. But, the kids go to school and we can’t go with him in Alabama. After Alabama, he got sent to North Carolina for I can’t remember how long. That’s the reason he quit his job in the military base.

I guess, people can sacrifice for their loved ones, but they can only do so much. If Rodney kept on working on the road, the kids might not recognize him and it breaks his heart when Alex won’t go to him. Working somewhere else was more money, and it did us really good financially, we were able to go to the Philippines for vacation and we were able to make a down payment for this house that we bought, but, in what expense? He sacrificed his being with us and endured the  feelings of loneliness and being alone to give us comfortable life, but, when it came to a point where his kids don’t come to him, it’s a wake up call for him and he decided, he needed to be home all the time.

Family is more important than money. And most of the time, people are happier with simpler life. Don’t you think?

What about you. Did you or your spouse made some sacrifices for the sake of loved ones? Please share it with us here at Couple’s Corner.

Cuddle- : to hold close for warmth or comfort or in affection. Not only couples can cuddle, kids can cuddle with  their parents. You can cuddle with your friends, providing, you don’t have the same gender, otherwise, it’s not comfortable, if you know what I mean.

Cuddling for me is very important in our marriage, that’s when we have physical and emotional contact with each other. We feel relax and this is the time to talk about everything. While talking, we can do some kissing and touching and that’s when the sparkle comes out. Making out with your partner is not bad, it only means one thing, you still have this hot steaming sex appeal and the love and urge to have each other.

I love cuddling with my husband, we make sure we have the time to do it, it’s either before going to  sleep,  while watching a movie, or after we get up in the morning on a weekend. We talk about almost everything. We start with things going on at the house, his job, my blogs, sometimes, about movies, and then there are times that it ends up with some kind of argument about our pasts which is not our favorite.

When we cuddle, it’s either we are facing each other on our sides, or we are in a spooning position where he can blow on my neck and I get tickled, which he knows annoys the heck out of me. On this time, we can joke around, we say what we feel. we can tell each other what we desire. If there are times that we end up having arguments about petty stuff, most of the time it ends up  really really good.

Hubby and I cuddle after a very romantic love making. Hey, admit it..I didn’t say anything bad here..but it’s very important that you bond after making LOVE. None of us can just call it a night after that lovely sharing. I’ve read in a magazine that cuddling after making love is so sweet and very important, it’s essential to kiss each other and appreciate the pleasure that both of you had, rather than, hearing your hubby snore a minute after.

We cuddle whenever we get the chance, because we think that it plays a very important role in our marriage.

What about you and your partner? do you cuddle too, and what can you share with us that may help us bond more with our hubbies, or help us strengthen our marriages.  Couple’s Corner is always open for ideas and stories of all the couples out there who has strong and wonderful marriage. Care to share it with us? Just click the badge and bring it on!

This phrase is oftentimes be seen posted on the wall, in an office, stores, and so on and so forth. What is HONESTY really mean?

Honesty refers to a facet of moral character and denotes positive, virtuous attributes such as integrity, truthfulness, and straightforwardness along with the absence of lying, cheating. so, in my dictionary- it’s telling the truth, and nothing but the truth so help me God.

In every relationship, honesty plays a critical role, and why is that? In my own words, a relationship that surrounded with lies and dishonesty doesn’t last and end up in separation.

Am I being honest with my husband? Is he being honest with me? Yes ,we both are honest with  each other. I know that we are  entitled to our own privacy and there are some things that we cannot really share with our partners, but..keeping secrets won’t do us any good. Being open is always the best rule, when you’re open, you can communicate, and when you are able to communicate, you can understand and support each other.

There are some factors that can destroy a relationship if dishonesty is present.

MONEY- I don’t work, so anything that comes out of our bank account, my husband knows about it. He knows when I send money to my siblings, and he knows the amount as well. He doesn’t mind at all, but in some couples, money can be an issue and can start trouble.

PAST RELATIONSHIPS- He knows my past and I know his (not all of it, and I didn’t want to know)I believe in, past is past and the preset and future is more important.

GOING OUT WITH FRIENDS- He used to go out with friends when we were in South Korea, and though I didn’t like it, I let him and he’s honest enough to tell me what they did or what they drank. ( I didn’t know if I should believe, since i wasn’t with them)

LOOKS- This is my favorite factor of his honesty. he would tell me when I need to take a shower, he won’t say I stink, but he would say in in a way that won’t hurt my feelings. He would tell me I am getting fat by caressing the sides of my body or staring at my belly  and asking me what did I eat all day.

             He would tell me if what I wear would make me look fat, or if it will look good on me or not (although most of the time, he doesn’t really care what I wear)

He won’t lie to me about the taste of the food that I made. If he doesn’t like it because it doesn’t taste good, he would let me know. He’s honest, and though sometimes, he tries to spare me from being hurt, he can’t help himself but tell the truth about what he really feels.

I do the same with him. if I don’t like what he does, I tell him..I let him know if I don’t approve of his decision or anything that I know  can destroy our trust to one another.

That’s why I believe that HONESTY is mostly needed if you want to have a long lasting relationship.

Right now, these are all I can think of, I know that you have other things that you can share with us. Let’s learn from each other..

That’s all for today and I hope you will have a great Wednesday.  You can always join our Wednesday Meme here at Couple’s Corner.

 

OMG! I didn’t realize that it is now Wednesday. I normally post my CC entry every Tuesday here in the US, for the entrants who are in the Philippines. Like what I said in my entry in This Is My Life, my brain got shook up from that 12 opps that I did here.

Anyways, today’s topic here is “ Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?” What exactly does this mean? You know how we always ask our partners “ Honey, Darling, Love, Mahal, Dear..will you still love me even if I gained weight, etc..etc..” I thought of this topic one day  while I was getting ready to take a shower. I stripped down my clothes and Rodney came to me and touched my fat (he calls it love handle) around my waist. I kind of laughed and told him that he made me that way. So, I can’t help to think that, no matter how skinny, beautiful, tight skinned we are, time will come that we will get older, fatter and our skin will be wrinkly. The thought of being old scares me, the thought of being overweight doesn’t bother me that much, since I had been there and yet, my hubby still loves me ( I wasn’t sure when I was really big, he might be gagging while looking at me, and I probably didn’t notice)well, at least that’s what he told me.

Whenever we cuddle, I always ask him if he still loves me, or how much he loves me, or, will he still love me if my hair turns gray. It’s not that I am insecure and all, but..I guess, it’s just a normal feeling sometimes to be threatened, especially my hubby is so goofy. Sometimes, he would measure my fat, he would say something  about my gray hair. I know that he loves me and I trust him that he won’t look at any other woman, but I guess, when you love someone so much, it hurts just to think that you will lose them one day.

Do you also ask your partners this question? Or do you have this feelings inside you? Share with us your stories, so we can learn from each other. Have a great CC today..

                                      These pictures were taken March 2008 

“I love you Honey, bye” or “Ok, love you, see you later”. These were few of the i love you’s that hubby and I usually exchange in our daily life. but, let me ask you this..When was the last time you really look into his eyes, and tell your husband “ Honey, Sweetheart, Mahal, Love, Dear or Babe.. I am so thankful that  you married me, my life won’t be the same without you. I love you from the very bottom of my heart, and I will love you always” Huwat??? ang corny! but, come to think of it, saying I love you is easy..but, when it would come from deep within your heart, with a little tears running down your cheeks, because you say it with feelings, that ain’t easy. Honestly speaking, I always tell my husband I love him, but it doesn’t happen very often that I look at him and tell him seriously that I am grateful for this wonderful life that he gives me, and that I love him till eternity. Is it hard? or we just feel that it’s so cheesy. Sometimes, although I don’t tell him about how I feel, I will hug him and kiss him so he can feel what I can’t say.

I believe that it’s very important for couples to tell their spouses what they feel. It’s not just during the wedding day that you say your vows, you can always tell your partners how happy and lucky you are to have found each other. Sometimes, I write to my husband, if I can’t tell him what I feel. In writing, I can be the corniest person and he does appreciate it. Or, maybe text  him and tell him you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, see what they think, they maybe whistling while working, or maybe get excited and can’t wait to come home and give you bunch of kisses. I text my hubby what I am going to do to him before bedtime, and oh boy! he gets excited, I can ask him anything I want.. Ahahahahaha! Massage before bedtime always works, hehehe!

What about you out there? Do you always tell your hubbies how much you love them? come join us here and let’s exchange love stories and learn from each other. You can always join our weekly Meme. Let’s all have fun!

This is a reality question, how well do you know your partner. For 8 years that Rodney and I had been together, I  cannot say that I know everything about him, but, I know him well enough,  not to give him a burger with onions.. When we married someone that we love, we ought to learn what makes them happy, what makes them satisfied, what makes them mad or angry. I guess, it’s just how it is. If you are not ready to learn important things about your spouse, then don’t get married, because the marriage is not going to work. Marrying someone is a lot of sacrifices too, but because you love him/her, these sacrifices are bearable. so, our topic for this week’s Meme is Knowing our Husbands. Well, no guys participate in this Meme, unless I force my husband to make an entry, which I will not do this time, hahaha!

“How Well Do We Know Each Other”

He knows:

 that when I eat at Burger King, I order Whopper with cheese, everything on it.

When he orders from Taco Bell, I only like steak tacos

my coffee has 3 teaspoons of sugar

I love my steak medium rare

I like my KFC chicken with gravy on the side

I know:

That his burgers only need to have Catsup and lots of mayo.

He likes his steak medium rare

He likes his salad with cheese, ham and eggs and ranch dressing

He likes Burritos with lots of sour cream

He likes his coffee very sweet.

   GENERAL

He likes wearing simple clothes, faded and raggedy looking; he doesn’t like to be told “ DUH” and “WHATEVER”;he hates going to the mall; he’s a very jealous and sensitive person; he likes to watch horror, sci-fi, action films, doesn’t like politics; he likes to fish and go to Fleamarkets; he loves motorcycle, cars and boats; he can be your best friend, but can also be your worst enemy; he prefers to stay home and watch movies on his days off, than go out with friends; he is knowledgeable in almost everything, name it and he can do it, just don’t ask him to do laundry, coz your whites can turn into pinks; he’s a great husband and the greatest father; he’s a private person, quiet, but can be loud when he wants to; he sleeps on his stomach most of the time; he loves to munch on Chips Ahoy cookies while watching TV ; he sleeps without shirt on; he cannot sleep without the fan being on.

I guess, I would have to ask him how well does he know me.. Gosh, he might say a lot of things about me, hehehe!

What about you? Would you like to share with us how well you know your hubbies? click on the badge and share with us your wonderful stories.